Exchange: the Human Expression of Love
formless, or Spirit; and even though the mind cannot grasp Spirit, it can talk
about it: it is pure Wisdom, pure Love, vast Power, and it has no beginning and
and it does so through self-expression. The ‘One Love’ has become the ‘many’
which, distanced from each other, allow for love’s expressions to unfold in
ways that allow Love to know itself as itself in an ever enriching way. One
could say that the Divine Love shows up as relationships, but it is more
reflective of the truth to say, Love shows up as ‘relating’, the action of
engaging with each other, the giving and receiving of time, energy, attention,
gifts, labor, produce etc between a ‘self’ and an ‘other’.
from lower grade self-serving contractions to high-grade selfless service; and
individuals with sensitive perception can easily tune their attention in any
exchange and sense, feel and calibrate the purity of the exchange.
highest possible grade of love: one being grants the other none less but his or
her own consciousness! The art of presence, thoroughly cultivated through
meditation, allows one to first be present with himself, then to be present
with another. The conscious exchange of attention between two individuals is
is part of the exchange. We are so annoyed when receiving gifts – even expensive
ones – which are not according to our taste or desire, because it shows that
the giver’s attention was not with us in the giving. A thoughtful gift is best
received because the true value of it resides in the listening to who the
the flow of love finding expression between the two individuals – and this is
true for couple relationships, friendships, family-relationships and any other
kind. As human beings evolve, the need for intimacy changes with each level of
development reached; each individual yearns to commune in intimacy all the way
to the depth of consciousness achieved. We seek to see each other’s face and
body, mind and emotions, soul and deepest dreams, ideas and capacities. Indeed,
exchanges between evolved individuals are closer in purity to Divine Love.
virtue of self-love in the process. Love’s human expression must necessarily
start with the Self, through self-love; but if it stops at self-love, the
individual remains contracted into small ego, living as a self-absorbed
narcissist, drawing on too little of the universal love to flourish and thrive.
greater and wider the flow of love in her life and in the world is. Giving and
receiving between two individuals can grow to giving and receiving among a group of people, then giving and receiving
to all humanity, then all sentient beings, thus contributing more and more to
the enrichment of Love consciousness in the world.
giving and receiving to an abundant, generous exchange. In the context of
interpersonal give-and-takes, being frugal is not a virtue, but an unfulfilled
potential to love, and making do with less is a failure to acknowledge the infinite,
eternal nature of Love. One can give a pinch of time, money, gifts,
compliments, services, attention to others, opening up just a crack to receive
a pinch from the blessings coming her way; or she can give abundantly,
generously, consistently from her very best, her arms and chest wide open to graciously accept all
the goodness that others bestow upon her.
receiving is, ideally, based on the principle of fairness and merit: one
individual gives services or goods to the other, and receives a fair amount of
money, or services or goods in return. The ideal exchange is earned through
merit (both individuals have earned the right to receive something from the
other) and is enriching for both of them, and – ideally – it is enriching for
the world at large.
receiver, and receives back directly from the Kosmos; it is Love expressing
itself as ‘Grace’, through gifts of love without merit, but in love’s name and
for the love’s own sake.
and manipulating are equivalent to closing doors to the flow of love; to the
mindful, sensitive human, it feels like a knot in one’s throat, and tightness in
her chest or a hunching of the shoulders and back. Any kind of unfair exchange –
taking without giving, or taking or giving too much – creates a kind of
imbalance which impairs the flow of love and diminishes it, like a bad
investment that brings no revenue; or like a leak of sorts.
services, gifts etc, as well as the loving kindness that they represent. “Thank
you” means “I value that which you give me, and I fully accept it”; deeply felt
gratitude stems from the awakened eye which recognizes the divine nature of the
exchange for which it is grateful.
attention is placed: appreciation places the attention on the giver,
acknowledging the value of what is given; gratitude acknowledges the receipt!
Divine infinite Mother / Father / All That Is. From a non-dual perspective, the
one who prays and the one who answers the prayer are not two. The most likely
prayer to be fulfilled is the kind of prayer that is both wise and kind for
all; thus, prayer is answered on merit, the infinite, eternal Wisdom,
Loving-Kindness and Power granting the answer to a prayer uttered from Wisdom,
Loving-Kindness and Power. Love’s requests to Love are instantaneously granted!
expression of Divine Charity, and referred to as Grace. When an individual
gives to charity, she gives to others who do not merit her giving (they need
her gifts but they do not pay back for them); thus she opens up doors to
Charity for herself and in the world.