In over twenty years of practice as a healing coach and educator
I noticed a correlation between chronic pain and symptoms, and relationship hurts.

I have seen many failed attempts to effectively change chronic conditions in spite of numerous visits to the medical doctor, the acupuncturist, the naturopath, the chiropractor and more.

Working with body awareness,
I have guided my clients through embodied inquiry into the pain, tension, and other symptoms until they traced those symptoms to past events, most of which took place in a relationship. The memories emerging were of painful events or interaction with others, and the work that brought sustainable change has been both inner work, within the person’s own body and mind, and outer work, in communicating with others.

The inner work works with the person’s views, emotions, body awareness and self-regulation; the outer work requires the cultivation of skills relevant to the person’s experiences and could include speaking up, asking for support, speaking up for oneself and what matters, asking for what is wanted with clarity and focus, listening with loving presence, and more. 

To heal past relationship wounds requires relationships that are nurturing and nourishing. To lower the risk of repeating past wounds requires the cultivation of relationship skills that perhaps weren’t available at the time of the injury. 

Sometimes clients come to see me complaining of a stubborn symptom. At other times, clients come to see me distressed by a relationship that they lose sleep and peace over. Addressing the relationships ease off body tensions, and people go home with relationship skills to practice.

Learning how to connect kindly, generously, authentically and effectively with each other is the balm and the medicine that help us move on from painful past events and circumstances into more fulfilling lives, and with more pleasure and resilience in our bodies.